Tired of playing the dating game
The chase creates the illusion of chemistry, not a real connection.
A man can sense when you’re making him chase you, and if you keep it up you’ll succeed in one thing: chasing him away.
When you have a fulfilling life of your own that exists completely separate from him, you will automatically be seen as having great value.
When your happiness is rooted in all sorts of things, not just him, you will never have to watch what you say or do for fear of coming off as needy because you will never be needy.
I dated many, guys after Craig and let me tell you, whenever I’ve been overly available I went through that same cycle.
They say insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
Since you are living your life and aren’t relying on his approval to make you happy, he automatically steps up and tries to carve space for himself in your life.
So go out there and do your thing, be happy without him (whether him is in the picture or not), and let him be the icing on your perfect cake, rather than the flour, the eggs, the sugar and whatever other ingredients go into making a cake!
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The frequency of calls and texts declined…he was always “too busy” to hang out…he stopped initiating contact (but would always respond when I reached out to him, acting nice and normal like always)…
Eventually, I stopped reaching out because it was starting to make me feel like an idiot…and he was never to be heard from again.
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If this is true, those men in the white coats should have been on me like white on rice. I had a very needy mindset and I derived way too much of my self-worth from how men responded to be. (To know what it does look like, check out this article: 10 Things Confident People Do Differently in Dating and Relationships.) It took a long time to realize I needed to stop prioritizing guys above myself, at least until he started treating like a priority.