Online dating for attractive people
If someone doesn’t “match” with me (online or in real life), it doesn’t mean I’m less valuable.
While there are hurt feelings and bruised egos, there’s resilience in the acceptance that everyone won’t always want what I am serving.
“You have no idea what it’s like to be called beautiful all the time,” a good friend once remarked.
“It’s like your biggest accomplishment is something you didn’t do yourself.” She wasn’t being rude; I’m not beautiful in the traditional sense.
My eye color isn’t interesting, and my hair is always feral.
I’m not ugly, but I don’t have much beauty privilege (and make no mistake, beauty privilege yields tangible rewards). “I don’t have to.” [Go ahead, ladies, make the first move.
They’re the stepping stone toward finding whatever it is we ultimately desire.
[Amy Schumer’s advice for single women: Keep your standards high] As a middling, I’ve discovered that my inherent greatness won’t always be universally accepted.
To be fair, I’ve also learned this by being a black woman.
In an effort to preserve sanity, I discovered very early that what is good and beautiful about me doesn’t require external validation.
Most of us have commiserated over drinks about the countless conversations that go nowhere, the great conversations that result in terrible dates, or the amazing dates that end in radio silence.
We can console ourselves with the knowledge that dating sites are marketplaces filled with choice and opportunity, and when faced with infinite choices, you’re less likely to choose.